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Happy birthday, boy child of mine

Not until my little boy received a set of cars on his first birthday did it dawn on me that I was raising a son. I mean, I knew he was a boy but up until then he was really just a baby.

We parent baby girls and boys the same way.
We run to them when they cry,
We cuddle them,
We play peek-a-boo,
We rock them to sleep and
We love them the same way.

That set of cars was my first glimpse into the world of boys.

First set of cars

First set of cars

One day in particular, when my little guy was about two, he went over to the neighbour's yard and started playing with the little rocks surrounding her garden. His dad scolded him and said, "No, no buddy. Put those down". He did as he was told and quickly walked away. Later, when his dad was out of sight, he went back onto the neighbour's yard, picked up a rock and said, "Daddy, ha ha!"

Little. Bugger.

More recently, coming out of WalMart, I couldn't find the car. I asked him if he remembered where I had parked it and he replied "Yes. Between two yellow lines. I hope that helps, Mom."

Little. Bugger.

Today, my cereal-munching, juice-chugging, prank-pulling, joke-telling, heart-tugging, fun-loving boy turns 12.

He can be rough and tough.
He can be funny and witty and wild and crazy.
But more than all that,
He is sweet and soft and gentle.
He has a way of warming my heart like no other boy I've ever known.

Boy Child of Mine

Boy Child of Mine

I love watching him grow.

Happy birthday, boy child of mine.

15 fun outdoor activities to enjoy with your kids

It's sneaking up on us. I know it is; I can smell it in the air.

Fall.

It's coming and I don't know about you, but I'm not quite ready for it.

The cooler mornings and evenings I've noted lately remind me that I really should spend more time outdoors before cocoon-worthy weather arrives. And since the back-to-school commercials are now broadcasting, that's your cue to savour the rest of summer before your little ones head back to class.

If you have trouble pulling your kids away from video games, TV, the Internet, their bed or the couch, try some of the following 15 outdoor activities to enjoy with your kids, excerpted from Last Child in the Woods: Saving our Children from Nature-Deficit Disorder by Richard Louv.

1. Adopt a tree. (Go ahead, hug it.)
Pick an existing tree or plant a special one to help mark important family occasions -- a birth, death, or marriage. The Take a Child Outside campaign suggests taking pictures of the tree in its first snow or after a big windstorm. Make bark rubbings using crayons and paper; record what animals use the tree.

2. Revive old traditions.
Collect lightning bugs at dusk, release them at dawn. Make a leaf collection. Keep a terrarium or aquarium.

3. Dig a backyard pond or establish a water garden on a porch or patio. Many nurseries and online vendors sell aquatic plants that do well in shallow pots filled with pebbles and water. Add a goldfish or other small fish to keep mosquitoes from breeding in the water. Frogs and turtles are also welcome. A few duckweeds, which look something like miniature lily pads, will entice other creatures to come near.

4. Encourage your kids to go camping in the backyard. Buy them a tent or help them make a canvas tepee.

5. Be a cloudspotter; build a backyard weather station. No special shoes or drive to the soccer field is required for "clouding." A young person just needs a view of the sky and a guidebook.

Cirrostratus, cumulonimbus, or lenticularis, shaped like flying saucers, "come to remind us that the clouds are Nature's poetry, spoken in a whisper in the rarefied air between crest and crag," writes Gavin Pretor-Pinney in his wonderful book The Cloudspotter's Guide. To build a backyard weather station, read The Kid's Book of Weather Forecasting by Mark Breen, Kathleen Friestad, and Michael Kline.

6. Make "green hour" a new family tradition. The National Wildlife Federation recommends that parents give their kids a daily green hour, a time for unstructured play and interaction with the natural world. Even 15 minutes is a good start.

"Imagine a map with your home in the center. Draw ever-widening circles around it, each representing a successively older child's realm of experience," NWF suggests. "Whenever possible, encourage some independent exploration as your child develops new skills and greater confidence."

7. Take a hike.
With younger children, choose easier, shorter routes and prepare to stop often. Or be a stroller explorer. "If you have an infant or toddler, consider organizing a neighborhood stroller group that meets for weekly nature walks," suggests the National Audubon Society.

Involve your teen in planning hikes; prepare yourselves physically for hikes, and stay within your limits (start with short day hikes); keep pack weight down.

That's me, returning from a hike and scratching a mosquito bite on my forehead. Remember to cover up and wear insect repellent, folks.

That's me, returning to my campsite after a short hike and scratching a mosquito bite on my forehead. Remember to cover up and wear insect repellent, friends.

8. Invent your own nature game.
One mother's suggestion: "We help our kids pay attention during longer hikes by playing ‘find 10 critters' -- mammals, birds, insects, reptiles, snails, other creatures. Finding a critter can also mean discovering footprints, mole holes, and other signs that an animal has passed by or lives there."

9. Go digital. Try wildlife photography -- appropriate for small children, teenagers, and adults. Digital cameras are portable, decreasingly expensive, and save money on film. True, wildlife photography can become costly, but in the beginning, using a small digital camera to take photos through one eyepiece of your binoculars can work well.

10. Encourage your kids to build a tree house, fort, or hut.
You can provide the raw materials, including sticks, boards, blankets, boxes, ropes, and nails, but it's best if kids are the architects and builders. The older the kids, the more complex the construction can be.

11. Plant a garden.
If your children are little, choose seeds large enough for them to handle and that mature quickly, including vegetables. Whether teenagers or toddlers, young gardeners can help feed the family, and if your community has a farmers' market, encourage them to sell their extra produce.

Alternatively, share it with the neighbors or donate it to a food bank. If you live in an urban neighborhood, create a high-rise garden. A landing, deck, terrace, or flat roof typically can accommodate several large pots, and even trees can thrive in containers if given proper care.

12. Go harvesting.
In past decades most children had family connections to farming—grandparents who still farmed, for instance. That connection can be echoed today by picking berries and other fruit or vegetables on commercial farms or in orchards open to the public. Consider joining a local food co-op; some invite the public to help with the harvest.

13. Read outside.
People who care about nature often mention nature books as important childhood influences. Reading stimulates the ecology of the imagination, especially if it’s done outside, say, in a tree house. Look for nature adventure books, particularly ones with young protagonists.

14. Go fish.
For kids five-years-old or younger, expect and encourage them to put the rod down and poke along the water’s edge. For older kids, start with the simplest techniques and gear. Bend down the barbs on the hooks for safety: this also makes it easier to release fish unharmed if you prefer not to keep the fish.

15. Collect stones.
Even the youngest children love gathering rocks, shells, and fossils. To polish stones, use an inexpensive lapidary machine—a rock tumbler. See Rock and Fossil Hunter by Ben Morgan.

Outdoor activities excerpted from Last Child in the Woods: Saving our Children from Nature-Deficit Disorder by Richard Louv. Excerpted with permission from Algonquin Books. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced except with permission in writing from the publishers.

Which outdoor activity on this list would you most like to do before summer's over?

Share your favourite road trip memory and you could be the lucky winner of a Canadian Living cookbook

Most people have fond childhood memories of road trips taken with their families. I have none.
We didn't have a car growing up so taking a family road trip was near impossible, especially with our large family (I'm one of five siblings).

My husband has spent many years trying to convince me that a family road trip would be a whole lot of fun.

I couldn't see it.

Lookout Road

Image by Let Ideas Compete via Flickr

I couldn't see how being confined to a vehicle with three kids for two days could ever be considered "a whole lot of fun".

But...

He did it.

He finally talked me into it and with some hesitation, I set off on my very first road trip down south last year.

And you know what...

I. LOVED. IT.

Every last bit of it.

From the excitement of watching the kilometers disappear behind us to the first palm tree sighting to the greasy pancake house to resting our heads in that cigar smelling motel in the sketchy part of town.

I . loved. it. all.

Had I known that I would fall in love with everything that signifies "road trip", I would never have put it off for this long.

Don't let it happen to you. Take it from me - don't put off that road trip any longer.

Before you head out on the road, make sure you have an active CAA membership. We placed an order for TripTik (a customized detailed map). It's a free service for CAA members. CAA also offers hotel discounts.

Invest in or borrow a GPS. Coupled with Triptik, it provided added security to ensure we were on the right track.

Don't forget about entertainment for the kids. We borrowed a friend's portable DVD player, packed a few books, magazines and electronic games. That being said, we still heard that ever famous phrase "Are we there yet" at least a zillion trillion times!

Co-ordinate re-fuelling, belly-filling and washroom breaks so you're not stopping any more that every 4-6 hours. Unfortunately, as much as we tried, this didn't always go as planned. Sigh.

Are you a road trip newbie or are you one of the lucky ones that's been riding in the back of mom and dad's station wagon since the beginning of time?
I'd love to hear all about it.

Share your fondest road trip memory and you could be the lucky winner of a Canadian Living cookbook.

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Dad+daughter+tennis = absolute racket

Today marks the start of one of my favourite weeks of the year: the Rogers Cup tennis tournament. For the first time, the men’s event (this year in Montreal) and the women’s event (in Toronto) will be played simultaneously.

I am a huge tennis fan (well, a huge sports freak fan in general). My family didn’t get a lot of TV stations when I was younger; we were at the mercy of the reception from the large TV aerial outside my bedroom window. But every summer I could always count on watching Canada’s pre-eminent tennis tournament.

U.S. Open Monday, Aug. 31, 2009

Aleksandra Wozniak, from Blainville, Que., will be playing in Toronto this week. (Image via Wikipedia)

I can’t say for sure if I started playing tennis because I liked watching it, or I started watching tennis because I was playing it. Either way I still have fond memories of hitting the ball against the fence next to the house and against the wall at one of the local public schools while my brother played his weeknight soccer game.

Learning to play against a fence and wall served me well once I started playing tennis competitively in high school. My playing “partners” never missed, which helped turn me into a human backboard of sorts. Being barely five feet tall, I certainly wasn’t going to overpower you, but I would run down and return anything you sent my way!

I have even fonder memories of my dad and I grabbing our racquets, driving to the local community college and playing a set or two a few times a week.  We were a little erratic when we first started playing, just as likely to hit the ball over the net as we were to hit it over the fence behind the court. (Being an active baseball player as well, I would give those shots my best home run call.)

Wilson Tennis Racquet

Tennis, anyone? (Image via Wikipedia)

As my dad and I spent more time playing together, we not only got better (my dad lobbing the ball over my head as I stood at the net now being intentional, not an oops) but also more competitive (I loved getting him running from side to side, although I’d usually start laughing and end up losing the point).

A lot of our father-daughter bonding moments revolved around sports: playing catch outside the house; Dad coaching my softball team; and him and another dad leading a chant of “We Will Rock You” at one of my volleyball games.

Was there something that always brought you and a parent together? Do you have a favourite summer memory of time spent with your mom or dad, or  with your own kids today?

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Siblings: Keeping them connected into their Adult Years

Sometimes I sit back and watch my kids interact with each other.

Will she share the very last cookie, just because her brother is giving her puppy dog eyes?
Even though he isn't fond of board games, will he play anyways, just because his sister wants him to?
Does she patiently explain that painstaking math problem to her frustrated younger brother?

I watch the way they speak, laugh, fight, yell, resolve and help each other.

Today...
I can see that my children genuinely like one another.
They depend on each other and enjoy their time together.
I see them run to each other with exciting news or even not-so-exciting news.
I know they have each other's backs.

This is what I see today.

I can't see into the future.

As a parent, one of the greatest gift we can ever receive is seeing the ever strengthening bonds of our children well into adulthood.

I hope they'll be the best of friends for all of time.

I hope they'll be the best of friends for all of time.

I hope that all the time they share together today (as children growing up in the same household, sharing rooms, chores, toys, laughs, fights, moments, memories) will create a bond so strong that nothing can break through it.
Not their future partners, life paths, geographical distance.
Nothing!

I've seen far too many siblings grow up and grow apart, never to speak to each other again.
I hope that never happens here.

I hope that they always remain the very best of friends,
that they always share in each other's accomplishments and
that they continue to be each other's rock.

It would make my heart smile.

My Top 20 Acronyms

Okay, I'm going to be honest - I'm not very comfortable with all the new media outlets.  I try to be hip and cool, but it's taking me a little while.

I do have a Facebook account and have a few friends and like to browse through their lives - but, most of the time I'm not sure what people are saying.

What's with the code???

Acronyms?

Really?  Why?

Lots of short forms representing statements and feelings!   So very challenging to read. I stop and try to figure out what it means.

So I decided to make up the top 20 list of commonly used acronyms - I credit Facebook for the enlightenment.

#20  AAMOF - As A Matter Of Fact

#19  WGBTY - Will Get Back To You

#18  AA  - not just Alcoholics Anonymous but, Adios Amigo

#17 TINWIS - That Is Not What I Said

#16 ROTFLOL - Rolling On The Floor Laughing Out Loud

#15  CMIIW - Correct Me If I'm Wrong

#14  DYJHIWTH - Don't You Just Hate It When That Happens

#13 HAGN - Have a Good Night

#12 IGGTOT - I Gotta Go To Other Things

#11 FMTEYEWTK - Far More Than Everything You've Ever Wanted To Know

#10  AIUI  - As I Understand It

#9 CSY - Can't Stop Yawning

#8  SETE - Smiling Ear To Ear

#7 SOTMG - Short Of Time Must Go

#6  TTBOMK - To The Best Of My Knowledge

#5  WDYW  What Do You Want?

#4  WAM  - Wait a Minute

#3 TYVM - Thank You Very Much

#2  WYP - What's Your Point

and the #1  TAF - That's All Folks

Hope this helps.  Let me know if you have others to add.

CU

Moving & Divorce - How to move on.

Earlier this week, I helped a friend move out of her marital home.

She seemed happy. She said she was looking forward to the next chapter in her life. But, as I moved boxes and cleared closets, I wondered how she felt leaving behind all the memories (both good and bad) that existed between these walls.

This house was her home for over 16 years. It's where she raised her two beautiful boys with the man she believed would be with her "till death do us part". It was within these walls that she laughed, loved, fought and cried.

The time had come.
It was time to stop trying to make it work.
It was broken beyond repair.
It was time to leave the past in the past and...
It was time to move on to happier days.

Moving on is never easy. It's never pain free. It's full of hurt and anger and uncertainty. However, she learned a few things that helped make the transition a little smoother.

Communication is key. Although their relationship was strained and it was difficult to discuss important matters, it was a definite necessity.

Stay calm. Over the years, a lot resentment and anger can build up, but keeping your tone neutral can go a long way in resolving important issues - and being heard.

Schedule moving time. It's not an ideal situation when both parties move out at the same time. If possible, schedule the move on different days and make sure you give each other the time and space needed.

Learn to let go. You can't keep looking back, wondering 'what if'. You can't question everything. Armed with experience and inner strength, you can only look forward to brighter days ahead.

For her, the first night in her new home felt strange, yet it also felt right.
New memories will be made as she starts the next phase of her life.
Getting here wasn't easy...
It's still not easy, but with love and support, she'll be Ok.

That's all we really need.

Third Child of Mine

"Stop growing up so fast"
"I can't daddy"
"Why? I want you to be my little girl forever"
"No daddy. I'm growing bigger everyday"

I hear this conversation on an almost weekly basis between my husband and our youngest.

Her sister was 8 and her brother 4 when she burst (OUCH) her way into the world and our family.

I clearly remember, shortly after she was born, sitting under a tree at the water park with her while the other two splashed and played. She was born in June and not wanting to keep everyone confined to the house and a schedule during the summer months, I decided right then and there that she'd be introduced to kid style summer living a little earlier than most.

She's been on fast forward ever since.

She's always been exposed to events much earlier than the other two. By the time she was 4 years old, she'd seen her first movie (18 months), flown to a sunny destination (3 years old) and attended her first concert (4 years old).

Prior to her 5th birthday, she wriggled her way out of the child seat on the back of daddy's bike and into the seat of her own two-wheeler where she's kept up (quite easily, I might add) with the rest of us on our hour long evening bike rides.

I don't have any recollection of her knowledge of any nursery rhymes. Instead we hear her singing along to Katie Perry " 'cause baby, you're a firework..." from the back of the minivan.

She gets upset if we ever tell her she's too little/young to do something and beams when she realizes that she's tall enough to stand in the pool without a floatie/old enough to go to bed at 9 instead of 8/responsible enough to brush her teeth without adult supervision.

I can't believe she'll be 7 this Saturday.

Sometimes, it feels like we totally skipped her baby days, her toddler days, her preschool days.

We're trying to savour every "little girl" moment.

But...

it isn't easy.

She's fighting us every step of the way.

It's as if she's trying to catch up to her brother and sister.

Slow down baby #3.

hailey-in-the-field

Please don't rush your childhood away.

We....

We miss you already.

Get out! 5 Outdoor memories to make Now!

Get out!

Not always spoken in a good way, but this time, it is!  Get out!  Enjoy the outdoors with your kids. Time to shed those socks!

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Some days it's hard to spend time outdoors when there's so much to do indoors.  In my case, it's usually laundry.

But, I promised myself that every evening after work, we would all just Get out!

Did you know that June 15, 2011 is Nature Play Day in Canada?

The Child and Nature Alliance of Canada are encouraging you to Get out! For more information, and to register, go to www.natureplayday.ca

You don't have to wait until June 15th; start today.

1.  Check your local community calendar.

  • You'll be surprised of the list of free events and festivals planned.

2. In your own hood.

  • Create chalk masterpieces on your front sidewalk, start a game of freeze tag with the neighbourhood kids, jump rope, bike to the playground.

3. In your very own backyard.

  • Have the children help you plant, water and care for your garden.
  • Look for bugs - not my favourite thing to do, but my boys enjoy it.  So much, that they make food trails leading into the house!?! Like I don't have enough ants in my kitchen!

4. Water - Love it !

  • Sprinklers are the best!
  • Have the children help wash the car.

5. Have dinner outside.

  • Picnic Table style or Blanket on the Grass style.  Food tastes better.
  • Or, sleep under the stars - nap or overnight in your tent.

So, get dirty, get wet, get messy, get excited!  These are the memories your children are going to remember.

5 tips to get you on your way to your relaxing summer vacation

Oh my.
It's the end of May.
Already.
I'm thinking of my summer plans.
Already.
I'm envisioning sitting on a beach chair sipping pina colada's overlooking a lake somewhere.
Because it sounds lovely, right?
Because it sounds wonderfully relaxing and it pretty much sums up what I expect from my summer vacation.

I wish I could just twitch my nose (like Samantha from Bewitched) and transform myself from the here and now to the then and there.
But I'm no witch nor wizard.
I don't possess any magical powers.
I have to get busy so I can get relaxing.

And this is how I plan on doing it...

1 - Start looking now (actually, I'm a little late, the earlier the better) for your vacation destination. A few great cottage rental and camping sites I've come across are cottagesincanada.com, ontarioparks.ca and cottagelink.com.

2 - Renew your CAA membership and obtain maps from your CAA dealership. Have your vehicle serviced before you start your drive.

3 - Have each family member pack for themselves. However, I suggest taking a gander at everything before loading the car, especially those of teenage girls. I mean, how many tank tops does a girl really need?

4 - Take a look through the house before driving off. You don't want to find yourself sunbathing on your daughter's tank top because you left the beach towels in the hallway closet.

5 - Make sure you stop somewhere along the way to fuel up the bellies. The last thing you want to hear is "Mom, I'm hungry" when pulling up to that little piece of heaven on earth.

A little piece of heaven on earth

A little piece of heaven on earth

With a little organization and a plan in motion, I'll be ready.

There'll only be one thing left on my to do list.

So...

who's going to deliver my lake front pina colada?

Cheers! and happy summer planning.



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