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priti 101
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 Posted: Sun May 31, 2009 12:46 am Post subject: cheating husband |
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my husband called another woman and told her she looks beautiful and i catch him looking at her when ever i go at her house am i going crazy or that men are like that can someone help me ????????????????
i do not trust my husband i feel i just am living a lie my life is a lie |
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j-siewert
Joined: 21 Apr 2009
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| Posted: Mon Jun 01, 2009 2:20 am Post subject: |
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Calm down. Looking, talking and complimenting do not equate cheating.
Did you really think that for your entire marriage your partner would never never ever never ever talk to another woman, look at another woman or compliment another woman?
If you believed that, then yes, your life is a lie. |
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dustyroo
Joined: 26 May 2009
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| Posted: Mon Jun 01, 2009 11:53 am Post subject: |
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| Do you have other reasons to believe that he is not being faithful? |
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InkiePinkie
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| Posted: Mon Jun 01, 2009 1:41 pm Post subject: |
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Your short note doesn't give enough information to form a full picture. You said he called a woman to tell her she was beautiful. Was that the purpose of his call to her? How does he know her...is she an old friend?
I think I would question a call to a woman for the sole purpose of telling her she was beautiful.
Share more details with us and hopefully we can give you some thoughtful advice. |
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envy
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Location: ontario
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| Posted: Mon Jun 01, 2009 7:04 pm Post subject: |
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Is it only with this one women? Did he know you were within earshot?
I have a male friend who in front of our spouses calls me beautiful and kisses my cheek everytime he sees me. It's just who he is. I've asked my husband and my friends wife and they both say it's no big deal to them. |
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mouse
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| Posted: Thu Jun 18, 2009 3:33 pm Post subject: |
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| There are countries where that is the norm,to greet the opposite sex with a kiss on the cheek,a hug,and a warm hello.Too bad that it is continually taken out of context (no reference the the op).I think that it is great,being able to greet someone in that manner. |
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donaldporter
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| Posted: Fri Jun 19, 2009 3:59 am Post subject: |
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the OP writes:
| Quote: | my husband called another woman and told her she looks beautiful and i catch him looking at her when ever i go at her house am i going crazy or that men are like that can someone help me ????????????????
i do not trust my husband i feel i just am living a lie my life is a lie |
I think its normal for males to glance at other females ..similarily I suspect that females glance at other males, usually subtle. It would appear that he is not being much of a gentleman about it. In my experience it does not put a woman in a happy place to hear her husband referring to another woman as beautiful and oogling her, quite rude and disrespectful to yourself.
Maybe sit him down and explain how is rude behavior makes you feel. |
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mouse
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| Posted: Tue Jun 23, 2009 9:02 pm Post subject: |
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| j-siewert wrote: | Calm down. Looking, talking and complimenting do not equate cheating.
Did you really think that for your entire marriage your partner would never never ever never ever talk to another woman, look at another woman or compliment another woman?
If you believed that, then yes, your life is a lie. |
Yes,I am actually agreeing with you on this one  |
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hot_t
Joined: 03 Dec 2008
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| Posted: Fri Jun 26, 2009 11:43 am Post subject: |
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To me that is definatly NOT cheating...
However there is a certain level of respect a person should give their partner and he is not giving you that. Sure guys look at other women but I don't think that is an ok excuse for a guy to oogle another women infront of his girlfriend/wife. Maybe you just need to accept that he fits some/all of the negative male stereotypes..? |
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mouse
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| Posted: Fri Jun 26, 2009 6:05 pm Post subject: |
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| hot_t wrote: | To me that is definatly NOT cheating...
However there is a certain level of respect a person should give their partner and he is not giving you that. Sure guys look at other women but I don't think that is an ok excuse for a guy to oogle another women infront of his girlfriend/wife. Maybe you just need to accept that he fits some/all of the negative male stereotypes..? |
On the other hand,he isn't doing it behind her back... |
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j-siewert
Joined: 21 Apr 2009
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| Posted: Sat Jun 27, 2009 2:31 am Post subject: Huh? |
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| Quote: | | Maybe you just need to accept that he fits some/all of the negative male stereotypes..? |
I'm scratching my head over this one - can you explain how this conclussion was drawn? |
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sadmadglad
Joined: 02 Jul 2009
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| Posted: Fri Jul 03, 2009 6:27 pm Post subject: Cheating Husbands |
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Oh my dear, let the games begin. Unfortunatly I have walked down your road, and it does not get better.
As I get older, I realize that human beings for the most part are fickle. They need change, in all ways. Whether it be a vacation, a new home. And in alot of instances, a new relationship.
Some say its mid-life crisis, but what if your not in mid life yet? Your heart is breaking I know, your guts are in a knot. And you are worried to death. I can sooo related.
So what to do? How strong are you? Your inner strengh? Do you love yourself? Do you think your attractive? Or have you let yourself go? Ask yourself these questions. If you say yes, to the inner strengh and self love, then go like gangbusters, and tell him, you dont like it, it hurts, and to stop, or there will be consequences. If he loves you, he will stop, if he does not? You have a problem, and decisions to make.
People that truely love you, would never do anything that would hurt or upset you.
And for the person that said it was harmless? Get a life! YES IT IS HARMFUL! I just love these people who think that its ok to hurt others needlessly. Shame on you. |
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sadmadglad
Joined: 02 Jul 2009
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| Posted: Fri Jul 03, 2009 6:29 pm Post subject: |
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| mouse wrote: | | j-siewert wrote: | Calm down. Looking, talking and complimenting do not equate cheating.
Did you really think that for your entire marriage your partner would never never ever never ever talk to another woman, look at another woman or compliment another woman?
If you believed that, then yes, your life is a lie. |
Yes,I am actually agreeing with you on this one |
Its the way it is done.... polite, or sleezy, I have seen them both. ugh |
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mouse
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| Posted: Tue Jul 07, 2009 9:28 pm Post subject: |
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| sadmadglad wrote: | | mouse wrote: | | j-siewert wrote: | Calm down. Looking, talking and complimenting do not equate cheating.
Did you really think that for your entire marriage your partner would never never ever never ever talk to another woman, look at another woman or compliment another woman?
If you believed that, then yes, your life is a lie. |
Yes,I am actually agreeing with you on this one |
Its the way it is done.... polite, or sleezy, I have seen them both. ugh |
It's not just the way it's done,it's the way it gets reacted to... |
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Crank
Joined: 14 Jul 2009
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| Posted: Tue Jul 14, 2009 4:37 pm Post subject: Re: cheating husband |
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| priti 101 wrote: |
my husband called another woman and told her she looks beautiful and i catch him looking at her when ever i go at her house am i going crazy or that men are like that can someone help me ????????????????
i do not trust my husband i feel i just am living a lie my life is a lie |
Brings to mind a quote from an old friend
" I don't get it, I've tried everything........but just talking to him"
Don't let this go any further.It's obviously bothering you. Talk to him, without accusing him...dont further the game by trying to get back at him.
In your quote "am i going crazy or that men are like that" I can assure you no! its not just men that are like that...people do cheat...they do lie, they are violent and they kill...have since before the idea of civilization.
"can someone help me ????????????????"...Yes!!! Your husband can. Tell him that you have noticed his interest in this woman ( say it with a cool temper) Ask him what it is that he finds attractive about her (try to make it playfull ) tell him you trust him, but your embarassed to admit your getting a little jealous ( try to laugh a little at yourself ) tell him you love your life with him and ask if there is anything you can do to sway his attention back to you.
I may be wrong (and I'm sure the other posters will blast me if so ) but if you can contain yourself through the converation, and you don't get into a big heated argument, I'm sure he'll be both flattered by your jealousy and be tripping over himself to ease your pain.
That said. If your husband will cheat, he will cheat. And as j-siewert wrote he will definatley look, talk and probably flirt with other women. Don't men do that with you? You sexy girl you. |
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