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donaldporter4
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My ex through the suicide card at me when I asked him to leave. He's done it a few times. He never said it to my face but he told his boss and his sister. I think he was going to get sympathy, he got a therapist and some time on the psych ward. He needs help, obviously, but I think he thought he could scare me into staying.
Um ...wouldn't he have said it to your face if ....oh nevermind. So he went to a therapist and to a psych ward to scare you? uh huh
Pumpkin ...allow me to introduce you to another member of your gene pool ..RH Toronto. |
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Happytobehere
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Golden Eagle
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Satan ....If you have any doubts then leave your marriage. Life is to short to be under someone's thumb. Don't spend a moment feeling guilty, if you find yourself thinking that way give yourself a shake and remember it's karma catching up with him.
Mouse .....You married? Or ever been married?
Satan ....Yes, But I'm happy now...
Donald.....
 God .... Don't make me come down there!! .....
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ChattysGuy
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| You're asking God not to send you to hell? You should have thought about that before you wrongly deleted one of Chatty's posts. Have you not heard of this thing we have called Freedom of Speech. |
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lyndafaye
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This is a virtual house or coffee shop Chattysguy.
treat it the way you would if you were in someones house.
freedom of speech is not available in someone's house.
You follow the rules of the host or hostess.
It is called curtesy.
I would hope that your mother taught you to be polite so maybe
you should respect your mothers teachings. |
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Golden Eagle
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Firstly, I have not deleted anyone's posts. But whoever did, did so accurately I am sure, as the garbage and nonsense spouting from them is not within the forums guidelines, as expressed to you before! Perhaps if Chatty Cat had not been so nasty to forum members, she would not have her nasty posts deleted and have other members retaliating to her. Furthermore, if Chatty Cat is so quick at making nasty and hateful comments, she should be big enough to come back and defend herself and not hide behind someone else!
Regardless of that, I did not ask God to send me to hell and in actual fact, God does not send people to hell, he welcomes them with open arms and sent His one and only son to die for our sins. Perhaps you should think about that Chatty Cat or guy, or whoever you are.
The post that I made was in response to one that Donald had made, if you actually had read back and read the whole thread.
Your talk, chat and posts that are derogatory to other members, are not welcome!!
You don’t like it? Don’t come here!!
You are a troll and you should leave....NOW!
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mouse
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| ChattysGuy wrote: | | You're asking God not to send you to hell? You should have thought about that before you wrongly deleted one of Chatty's posts. Have you not heard of this thing we have called Freedom of Speech. |
I agree with freedom of speech.However,it's the way one words their so called"freedoms"is the problem.We have all heard of freedom of speech,and gladly embrace it,when used in a way that doesn't hurl insults,or other false accusatory remarks.It's great reading people's different view points,but,not so great when when one's viewpoints resort to name calling and plain,flat out insults... |
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princess punkin
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| donaldporter4 wrote: | My ex through the suicide card at me when I asked him to leave. He's done it a few times. He never said it to my face but he told his boss and his sister. I think he was going to get sympathy, he got a therapist and some time on the psych ward. He needs help, obviously, but I think he thought he could scare me into staying.
Um ...wouldn't he have said it to your face if ....oh nevermind. So he went to a therapist and to a psych ward to scare you? uh huh
Pumpkin ...allow me to introduce you to another member of your gene pool ..RH Toronto. |
No he didn't go to those places to scare me. I didn't find out about what he was telling people until he had told someone that has dealt with a suicide that then told his sister who works at the hospital what he wanted to do. No one was telling me anything until my brother-in-law told my mom and she questioned me on it. He is a drama queen and went to someone that he knew would give him the attention he needed. The thing he didn't plan on was the person he talked to did not fool around and took the steps she thought he needed. He didn't tell me but told people around me including my best friend. He needed help but didn't know how to ask for it so telling people he was thinking about suicide was his way of asking for help. You don't know my ex. If you did you would know he has issues upstairs. And when you have issues upstairs you don't always think rationally. Even know when we get into it he tells me he wants me to get to know the new him. That he has made changes. I said fine I'll get to know the new you but its over between us that the damage he has done cannot be fixed. He hears that I want to get to know the new him and tells my mom I send him mixed signals.
Suicide is a hard topic to deal with no matter who it is. Donald you didn't know my entire story and because this thread is not about me was not going to go to deep into it. I gave the cliff notes version. Next time ask you question without being a dolt. |
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KharmicKhaos
Joined: 14 Nov 2009
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| Posted: Thu Nov 19, 2009 3:55 pm Post subject: Very Insightful. |
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| j-siewert wrote: | As a further consideration, it may be that he is aware that his illness is a burden for you - and he is purposefully driving you away to spare you from it. He likely senses your desire to be free and could be helping to hold the door open by inflicting behaviour traits that he knows will send you packing. It could be that he does not want you to see him die.
It could also be possible that he is ashamed of himself for his mortality and his inability to be a strong provider any longer - two very daunting topics for males - and his frustration at his own weakness manifests as vindictiveness to the person he feels he is required to protect - his wife. Again, human if not humane.
It may be in some twisted, tragic way he is trying to save you, which oddly enough, is what a fictional vampire's motivations ultimately are (just as a useless fyi), but yeah, I think you need to look at this situation with an eye to compassion. |
J- you may have hit the nail on the head. I can't help seeing my wife being in the same situation with me, though I am not dying but I can no longer move very well, let alone travel adn do things we once did together.
What to say? I have gone thorugh the bouts of pushing my wife away for that very reason, not wanting to face the fact that I no longer was the man I once was. My wife was making my angry by cancelling her travel plans on my account. I don't need the day to day care as some do, so I was feeling guilty about her not going on living her life. And I became miserable. The shame one feels when you feel you area burden cannot be overstated enough.
Thankfully we got in a big fight and she now can do as she needs, and she can be a nurse to me without resentment on my part.
Jan, you have to understand what it is you need in life. Are you house bound by your husband? Are you able to do things on you won? Can nurses take care of him to allow you to feel in the world?
Or you just want to be out of the marriage? That is simply up for you to figure out.
If you want the marriage to work then tell him how you feel and see what happens. Perhaps he will tell you what ist is he truly needs and you may find that those things aren't incompatible with you living a life without feeling closed in.
Wow what a tender subject! |
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