Ring Finger

[mouse]

This is a discussion that my b/f and I had recently.I was wearing a ring on my ring finger(left hand)because it wouldn't fit on the one beside it.He thinks that I shouldn't wear a ring on the ring finger unless your'e engaged/married.I said that it doesn't matter which finger a ring goes on.

Anyone have any thoughts/opinions on this?Just curious to see what others think about that...

[Chatty Cat]

This may not be helpful, but I think you are both right. Yes, that ring finger does signify married status to most people, but if you're in a committed relationship and you don't care that others might think you're taken, then it's not a big deal.

Three things to consider:
1) Does your bf not like you looking married because then it makes him look married as well when you're out and about? Nothing wrong with that, just saying that might be why he thinks it's inappropriate.
2) Maybe your bf is reading your action as a subtle pressure to get married and some guys resent pressure. Some don't care and still others are concerned if there is no pressure - so definately a very subjective response.
3) Does the ring look like an engagement ring or wedding band? Could be that your bf thinks it looks cheap or an odd choice, thus reflecting poorly on him and/or you if people assume it is an official ring.

Cheers!

[Golden Eagle]

A new thing that I hear about that a lot of pre married youth and teens are doing (especially ones in the church I attend) is wearing on their ring finger what is called a purity ring.
I was in a position that my divorce took many years to achieve. I was in a monogamous relationship for 7 years during that time and felt very strongly about making any commitments that I was engaged or would be married, while still not divorced (even though I was asked every day if I would marry him when I was free ) I wore what I called a promise ring (bought and given to me by him) during that 7 years, on my ring finger.
The day that my divorce was granted I was given a huge diamond and now wear it with pride, along with my wedding band.
I think that a ring should be given to you by someone who is making some sort of promise or commitment to you to wear on that finger, I guess perhaps I am just a traditionalist.
Perhaps your BF is too mouse, and he would want his ring to you (when he gives it, and you are both ready to make that commitment) to have a huge meaning to your relationship and he considers that finger should be left for that alone.
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[donaldporter4]

More and more traditions seem to go by the wayside in the name of
convenience.

Have your ring expanded a tad by the jeweller to accommodate your finger. Leave the left ring finger empty ... it says you are available...which usually inspires a well motivated guy to make sure its not left that way.

I'm not sure why your b/f would have a problem with you wearing a ring on your ring finger .. it would save him chasing off whomever.

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[Golden Eagle]

It is a good thing! Leave it empty until you are both ready for the commitment, it will mean so much more when you do get it. I am happy for you both, very well deserved
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[ChattysGuy]

stupid post

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[shel999]

Generally speaking, I agree that a ring - any ring - can and should be worn on whichever finger you please, relationship or not, commitment or not. If it personally signifies nothing to you (i.e. a hint that you're looking for a commitment), then it is his - not your - problem if he is insecure.

However, based on your description of the two of you (traditionalists) and your claim that he does feel the ring finger should be left for an engagement/wedding ring, in this case I feel his request should be respected, especially if the only thing the two of you are waiting for is the loose ends you speak of to be tied up. It seems as if he has given you an honest explanation which is more than understandable. In any other case (a guy who is paranoid or isn't planning to make that commitment), I say do what makes you feel good.

[shel999]

Generally speaking, I agree that a ring - any ring - can and should be worn on whichever finger you please, relationship or not, commitment or not. If it personally signifies nothing to you (i.e. a hint that you're looking for a commitment), then it is his - not your - problem if he is insecure.

However, based on your description of the two of you (traditionalists) and your claim that he does feel the ring finger should be left for an engagement/wedding ring, in this case I feel his request should be respected, especially if the only thing the two of you are waiting for is the loose ends you speak of to be tied up. It seems as if he has given you an honest explanation which is more than understandable. In any other case (a guy who is paranoid or isn't planning to make that commitment), I say do what makes you feel good.

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