need some advice.......

[mouse]

To me,no matter how bad one has been hurt,seeking revenge on the offending party never gets you anywhere.Quite often,it backfires and bites you in the butt.I am not speaking from personal experience,because that isn't my style.A friend(yrs.ago)did something to her ex,and she ended up having to go to jail...

[princess punkin]

I do agree with the letting friends and family know what is going on but don't over do it. When I was going through hard times (still am kind of) with my ex my best friend (who is a guy and happened to be the excuse for all of my exs accusations) told me that I had to tell people what was going on. When I did so many people said to me "I knew there was more to what he was telling us"

At the same time sweet innocent revenge is nice too. Just recently I was spotted going somewhere that I knew he would not like me going. It would mean a definite end to our relationship. Something like a lawyer's office. Within mins someone saw me parked outside the office and called him and told him where I was. Thanks to whoever did that. Anyway, long story short he sent me flowers with a card "Was thinking of you". Right okay that's not my feeling on it. He sent them to me on a day when I wasn't in the office and he knew it. He knew the flowers would show up and they would sit on my desk for everyone to see and ask me about later. He might have seen all of that but 1) he knows I don't like attention 2) not a big fan of flowers I'm not really a girly girl (no offence anyone)

So instead of getting upset (btw it did bother me for about 2 hrs because that's how long it took me to get back there to deal with them) but I wanted to make sure they were from him first. I was hoping someone else might have thought I needed a pick me up. But no, there were from him. I took the flowers and went for a drive. Throwing them out the window. Some of you may think its mean but I went down a side road with not a lot of traffic and I doubt he goes down that road very often (and I honestly don't think I care if he finds out). But I can tell you after they were gone, I felt so much better.

Its kind of like burning old pictures. Just getting those things out of your life do help. But don't be vengeful about it. You might not only be hurting his/her feelings.

[mouse]

Prin.Pun:I don't classify what you did as revengeful.You were merely not letting the past back into your life.You weren't harming anyone...Betcha it felt good eh?Hey,an ideal next time you get flowers from(the soon to be)ex:maybe drop them off to an old folks home?Just a thought,that's all...

[princess punkin]

I giggled everytime I threw one out the window. Now I just have to deal with the comments from everyone that saw them yesterday. So far no one has been in so its been alright. But come lunch time people will be asking I'm sure.

You know I didn't even think about the old folks home. I'll remember that for next time.

[ChattysGuy]

Punkin, any chance of you actually addressing the post rather than some sort of warped ongoing bragging about your insensitivity

[mouse]

[princess punkin]

Sounds like you are a typical guy and read what you want to read, hear what you want to hear and see what you want to see. Is anyone else surprised here?