Something else to think about: anger is often considered to be a secondary emotion, meaning that before one feels anger, you might have felt sadness, fear or abandonment.
The anger then is considered to be a reactive or protective response to a more vulnerable, primary emotion. Knowing that your own, or another person's anger, is coming from a vulnerable place rather than an aggressive, punitive place can sometimes help you to deal with the underlying causes and act in ways that are honouring to yourself and others.
So acknowledge it for what it is, an important source of information to be managed and learned from, and then respond proactively to re-direct this energy to bring passion and creativity into your life and important relationships.
Marion
Dr. Marion Goertz is a registered marriage and family therapist and a clinical member of the American and Ontario Associations for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT/OAMFT). Marion maintains a private marriage and family therapy practice in Toronto.




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