So, you want to make a New Year's resolution. Well, some habits are easier to change than others. If you'd like to make a change in a "simple habit," it can be relatively easy -- unlike "complex habits." What I mean by a "simple habit" is a habit that is not motivated or sustained because of some emotion.
Overeating is often a common "complex habit" -- one that is emotionally linked. You feel tired, bored or upset and you start eating. The eating is not about the desire to feed the body or just because eating is enjoyable (which it is). The eating occurs as a mechanism to minimize the unpleasant feelings being experienced. In a way, it's the drug of choice in order to feel better.
Nail-biting can be a simple or a complex habit. Sometimes people bite their fingernails as a method of grooming and removing irritating imperfections on their nails. When this is the case, a concerted effort over several days will break the habit easily.
If the nail-biting is emotionally linked, every time the distressing emotion arises, such as stress or anxiety, the person starts biting their nails. Trying to stop biting the nails at this point (or change any behaviour) becomes much more difficult as the emotion drives the person to continue the habit. If you have the symptom (nail-biting), so to speak, you have the disease (the distressing emotion). Do not just try to eliminate the symptom.
We have all met someone who smoked three packs a day for 20 years and quit easily, while another person who has been smoking only a few years and smokes ten cigarettes a day is struggling to quit. We would expect the heavy smoker to have more difficulty quitting. The difference is in how motivated the person is to quit and whether or not the habit is connected to various emotional activities.
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