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Between 3 and 8% of women have PMDD, a severe form of PMS with depression-like symptoms.
"For the three days leading up to my period, I was suicidal, anxious and irritable. I'd have fits of rage; I felt unglued. Then, I'd get my period and I'd be fine," says Jennifer, who asked us not to use her last name. Her psychotherapist suggested PMDD two years ago as a possible cause for her mood swings.
PMDD is like PMS's bigger, badder sister. It's another way of saying very severe PMS, says Dr. Samantha Saffy, a psychiatrist in Vancouver. In order to get a PMDD diagnosis, you need to experience the disorder's depression-like symptoms—mood swings, irritability, anger, feelings of hopelessness, anxiety, fatigue, difficulty concentrating, insomnia and a decreased interest in usual activities—more months than not. They should occur in the week leading up to menses, then improve after your period starts.
It can be difficult to get a diagnosis. Jennifer had been to three physicians with no luck. But just knowing PMDD exists might be helpful. "Often, being aware of your condition through education can help ease symptoms," says Dr. Tanya Tulipan, a psychiatrist specializing in reproductive mental health in Halifax. "If you know that certain days of the month will be more challenging for you, you can plan around them to minimize stress. Healthy habits such as getting adequate sleep, exercising regularly and eating healthily are known to ease symptoms, too." Cognitive behavioural therapy and mindfulness can also help, but "if none of these strategies works, your family doctor can suggest an antidepressant that you can take continuously or even just for the week that you have your symptoms," says Dr. Tulipan.
Feeling down? Here are 10 of our favourite quotes about happiness to help you look on the bright side.
"Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony." — Mahatma Gandhi
"Happiness is determined more by one's state of mind than by external events." — Dalai Lama XIV
"If more of us valued food and cheer and song above hoarded gold, it would be a merrier world." — J.R.R Tolkien
"For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness." — Ralph Waldo Emerson
"Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared." — Buddha
"Happiness consists of living each day as if it were the first day of your honeymoon and the last day of your vacation." — Leo Tolstoy
"Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be." — Abraham Lincoln
"Happiness doesn't always come from a pursuit. Sometimes it comes when we least expect it." — Dalai Lama XIV
"Sanity and happiness are an impossible combination." — Mark Twain
"Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened." — Dr. Seuss
Unique Valentine's Day Gifts Image by: instagram.com/bitebeauty/
Think outside the box this Valentine's Day and pick up something cute, funny or thoughtful!
Valentine's Day is full of clichés. Chocolates, lingerie, flowers—it's not for everybody (though no judgement if you're all about that OTT romance). Which is why we've put together a list of gifts that we think aren't as obvious. Some are silly, some require a personal touch—but we're sure all of them will be well-recieved. Take a look.
Simply say "I love you"
TheThinktree card, $5.50, etsy.com.
If a simple card will do the trick to say “I love you,” then it may as well be a cute one.
Remind them of your favourite (shared) things
BonMotPrints wedding song print, $25, etsy.com.
Do you and your person have a song? Was there something special you played at your wedding, or a tune that always puts a smile on your partner’s face? This personalized poster is the best way to honour that ditty.
Talking Tables glitter banner, $18, indigo.ca.
Staying in with your honey this Valentine’s Day? Dress up your home with a few cheesy—but very cute—decorations. It’s the little things that will put a smile on your lover’s face.
PlumPerfection pillow cover, $32.50, etsy.com.
Get straight to the point with this fun pillow. It’s the perfect gift for new couples.
Miniature Bonsai Tree Kit, $16, urbanoutfitters.com.
Taking care of something together—like a pet—is a great way to expand your relationship. But not everyone is up for a new furry friend. Instead, pick up a plant, or better yet, grow a plant together. This Bonsai Tree Kit is the perfect way to watch your love grow—without the animal allergens.
Bite Beauty Lab, starting at $55, bitebauty.ca.
Kissable lips sort of go hand-in-hand with Valentine’s Day, so get your love the gift of healthy lips—with a twist. Sign your lover up for an opportunity to get her makeup professionally done, or if you’re in Toronto plan for your sweety to check out BITE Beauty Lab—she’ll get to make her own personalized lipstick shade.
You Had Me At Merlot wine glasses, $16, urbanoutfitters.com.
If yours is a love that was nurtured over a bottle of wine, then you should probably pick up these cute glasses.