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Moving & Divorce - How to move on.

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Moving & Divorce - How to move on.

Earlier this week, I helped a friend move out of her marital home. She seemed happy. She said she was looking forward to the next chapter in her life. But, as I moved boxes and cleared closets, I wondered how she felt leaving behind all the memories (both good and bad) that existed between these walls. This house was her home for over 16 years. It's where she raised her two beautiful boys with the man she believed would be with her "till death do us part". It was within these walls that she laughed, loved, fought and cried. The time had come. It was time to stop trying to make it work. It was broken beyond repair. It was time to leave the past in the past and... It was time to move on to happier days. Moving on is never easy. It's never pain free. It's full of hurt and anger and uncertainty. However, she learned a few things that helped make the transition a little smoother. Communication is key. Although their relationship was strained and it was difficult to discuss important matters, it was a definite necessity. Stay calm. Over the years, a lot resentment and anger can build up, but keeping your tone neutral can go a long way in resolving important issues - and being heard. Schedule moving time. It's not an ideal situation when both parties move out at the same time. If possible, schedule the move on different days and make sure you give each other the time and space needed. Learn to let go. You can't keep looking back, wondering 'what if'. You can't question everything. Armed with experience and inner strength, you can only look forward to brighter days ahead. For her, the first night in her new home felt strange, yet it also felt right. New memories will be made as she starts the next phase of her life. Getting here wasn't easy... It's still not easy, but with love and support, she'll be Ok. That's all we really need.
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