VIDEO: Ease workplace stress

It is a rare individual who would say that they have the ideal job. Unfortunately, most people feel a fair amount of stress and dissatisfaction while at work (and often in their personal lives as well).

To be fair, many people simply have the wrong attitude -- so any job would be stressful and unsatisfying. On the other hand, many people end up in a career that does not fit their personality, a situation likely to be a source of stress. There are two options: change the career path or adapt to the situation.

By the way, this is true whether you're in the boardroom or the job is raising your children. We are built for some activities, while others go against our grain. If you are going to maintain your path for any number of reasons, then the emphasis is on you to change, or at least until your path does.

There are ways to manage life, tasks and time efficiently. While being overloaded is not enjoyable, more often than not it is a question of priorities, setting up solid boundaries and learning to say No.

Usually when I see clients about stress-related issues they are "shoulding" on themselves. You know: "I have to," "I've got to," "I must," "I should," etc. They demand and insist that they themselves be perfect, get things done and solve the problems of the world.

There is a big difference between thinking that "I'd like to," or "It's a good idea to," as opposed to "I have to," or "I should." The first is a preference and the second is a demand.