What to do when the tooth fairy forgets to show up

There are so many things I didn’t plan on doing when I became a parent. But sometimes society has other plans.

I didn’t grow up getting presents from Santa or money from the tooth fairy. Neither did my husband. Sure, we received many Christmas presents but they were always from people we knew. No biggie. I don’t think I missed out on anything by not being lied to about the existence of Santa Claus. So we planned on not playing the Santa role at Christmas with our own kids, as well.

But when people started getting into my children’s heads about the “right jolly old elf” and the mysterious tooth collector, my plans got tossed out the window.

We don’t want to be the ones to burst their bubble.

This week, my seven-year-old lost his tooth while at school. So he received a cute tooth holder on a key ring to store it in. I thought, “Wow! He’s growing up!” It didn’t cross my mind to start scrounging up my change to pay him for this milestone. But of course, he reminded me. And so did the daycare teachers. I’m sure his teacher and the principal would have reminded me too, if I saw them.

Black and white image of a tooth holder on a key ring

So we went home and he asked if he could make a sign for the tooth fairy so she’d know where to look for his tooth. Of course, I said yes.

We took pictures of his tooth holder as well as pictures of him and his sign. He was so excited about the impending visit.

Sign for the tooth fairy

The problem is, she didn’t come. And the next morning he was devastated. With tears streaming down his face he came to me clutching the tooth holder. He said, “It’s still here!” and my heart sank. The night before, I thought I should wait a bit before attempting to take the tooth and deliver the dough so as not to get busted.

Then I fell asleep on the couch. And that was that.

That night before he went to bed, I assured him she would find his tooth. I assured him it was okay that his tooth was in the tooth holder. She would find it. She knows where to look. She does this for a living!

Grasping the tooth holder he said, “It’s because it was in here.” I thought, “How are we going to get out of this one?”

Then he told me he kept waking up to check if it was still there. That was my out! I told him she wouldn’t come if he was awake. And he believed me. Phew!

We decided to plant the money under his pillow before we left for work that day. Then, we told him not to go in his room because she wouldn’t come if he was in there.

When I picked him up from his after-school program, the first thing on his mind was the tooth fairy. “Did she come?” he asked.

I told him I didn’t know since I had left for work before him. When we arrived home he burst through the door to check if the tooth fairy had paid a visit.

Luckily for us, he found the money and was thrilled. He received five loonies! A generous tooth fairy, I say.


I can’t wait until one of his classmates bursts his bubble because all this deception is exhausting!

Image courtesy Grace Maala Telphia

  • http://www.canadianliving.com/ Jennifer Gruden

    Our tooth fairy did not come one night, so she wrote a letter explaining
    that she had been on vacation, and she included a bonus minifig. My husband suggested that we say she was on strike in support of the goblin’s union but that seemed a little over the top. I can’t believe I just wrote that. :)

    • GraceTC

      Haha! Good save! I’ll keep that in my back pocket for next time. Because I know there will be one…

  • Shannon

    I have to admit the tooth fairy has missed visiting in our house on more than one occasion… it happens! My daughter has learned that sometimes you have to be patient if it was a really busy day for kids loosing teeth – she’s no longer upset if there’s nothing there the first day… just hopes it won’t take more than two to get to hers!