In the toddler years, you face the challenge of living with a child who is trying to be independent but is still a bit scared. While it might be hard to strike a balance between protecting your child and encouraging his independence, here are some tips to help you better connect with your growing child.
• Listen to your child. Check with your child to see if you understand him. You might say, "I think that you were saying such-and-such. Was that what you meant?" or "I'm confused, because you say you're happy but you look sad."
• Give directions in a positive way. Children respond better to limits when they feel loved and noticed as part of a warm, caring relationship. For instance, say, "Please close the door quietly" instead of "Don't slam the door!"
• Notice and praise good behaviour. This can build your child's self-esteem and reduce his need to battle with you all the time.
• Respect your child's feelings by not making fun of her fears or worries. This will help your child better understand how others think and feel.
• Allow your child to take the lead, especially when playing together. This will show her that you care about and respect her ideas.
• Take a drive and enjoy the closeness of just being together. Many parents find that a drive in the car, just the two of you, magically opens the door to communication.
• Be patient. Sometimes the key is to wait until your child initiates the discussion. When this happens, be ready to drop whatever it is you are doing and seize the opportunity to listen to what your child has to say.
Your toddler needs to be able to rely on you and know that you are there when she needs you. A secure child will more eagerly explore the world around her.
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