Sometimes however, Mom isn't #1. Then what? Below are some dos and don'ts for coping, and how to still be a great parent.
Do realize it's not a big deal
"Kids can be more attached to one parent (today) and then at another time, feel closer to the other. It's important that you try not to attach too much meaning to which your child is enjoying the most. It's really not personal," Esther Kane, a Courtenay, BC-based clinical counselor and family therapist. (Don't you ever go through periods when you relate better to one of your children than the other, and vice versa? It doesn't mean you love either less, right?)
Don't see this as a critique of your parenting
Are you available for your child? Do you spend time together? Do you meet your responsibilities and obligations as a parent: feeding, clothing, protecting, reading to, playing with and nurturing your child? Do you use positive discipline and ensure they meet childhood obligations such as being prepared for school, getting along with others and treating other people, animals and property with respect? Do you talk with them and listen to what they have to say? We thought so.
Don't beat yourself up. More importantly, don't turn this molehill into a mountain. Be happy your kid runs to Dad first when he wants to play Battleship: now you've got time to read a book!
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