We’ve seen hundreds of kids head off to do volunteer work in developing nations. The energy these kids possess isn’t reckless idealism. They know risks and hard work lie ahead, but this is what makes the journey so fulfilling. They return energized, ready to direct their newly earned independence toward changing the world.
Knowing when your children are ready to fly solo is one of parenting’s greatest challenges. Make them part of the decision-making process by setting clear conditions for your consent. When they take steps to earn your trust, you’ll know they’re ready.
Stepping out on their own – and learning from missteps along the way – gives kids the confidence to take chances and the courage to realize their dreams. And by letting go, you can set them off on a spectacular adventure of their own.
How to teach your kids independence
1. Walking to school or taking public transportation can be a child’s first big step toward independence. Make sure he knows the route inside out and understands the rules of not talking to strangers, then let him take those bold steps with a trusted friend or sibling.
2. Scouts or other youth organizations are a great way of getting your kids outdoors and developing valuable social skills.
3. Encourage your child to take on a part-time job. Whether raking leaves for neighbours or delivering newspapers, earning money teaches responsibility and lets her raise funds for her own adventures.
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Craig and Marc Kielburger are the founders of Free the Children and coauthors of Me to We: Finding Meaning in a Material World (Simon and Schuster, 2006) and Me to We: Turning Self-Help on Its Head (John Wiley, 2004)
| This story was originally titled "Flying On Their Own" in the October 2007 issue. Subscribe to Canadian Living today and never miss an issue! |
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