One of you will be pregnant and one of you won't. That means one of you will be doing the bulk of the work -- growing and birthing a child -- and the other will be a supporting role.
Playing a supporting role, however, does not mean one needs to be passive. How much energy a spouse puts into supporting a pregnant woman can have a significant impact on how healthy and enjoyable her experience of bringing a baby into the world is.
Supporting her during pregnancy
Feeling a sense of partnership during pregnancy can be a great help and a great boost to the spirits. Make it a project for both of you to maintain optimal health during the pregnancy and postpartum periods. Take over whatever tasks would expose her to unhealthy toxins, from painting the nursery to changing the litter box. Partners should consider limiting alcohol and caffeine right alongside moms. In fact, partners would be wise to take it upon themselves to help moms maintain the most healthful and nutritious diet possible. Beneficial, too, is assistance in researching the effects on pregnancy and nursing of whatever drugs she might be offered.
Another great way for spouses to help is for them to take on many of the nonphysical baby-related chores. This will relieve a lot of stress! Make it your job to research medical coverage for pregnancy and delivery. Also research both your family medical histories -- patterns of diabetes, birth defects, etc.; you may be asked them, and you'll definitely want to be informed if a problem comes up. Look into how your family will manage financially, and make a plan. Money issues, particularly fear of the unknown, can create a lot of tension. Mitigate it to the extent you can. Finally, plan some romantic moments for you and your spouse. A relaxed, happy mom is a healthy mom. Her body is doing a lot of hard work. Treat her well!
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