Tip 4
Sibling rivalry isn't the only emotion a new baby inspires. An older child may feel overwhelmed, confused and frustrated when the world as she knows it suddenly changes. Her behaviour may deteriorate, not from jealousy, but from desperation. With the new baby comes a change in routines, habits and expectations. Creating rituals and maintaining structure helps make life more predictable, which is crucial when everything seems to be spinning out of control. Structure doesn't limit a child; it liberates her.
Tip 5
Remember to let your child know that you've noticed and appreciate her cooperation. Give specific feedback, such as, "Brooklynn, thank you for putting the money back when Mommy says no. You're a good listener."
Tip 6
In my experience, a few choice words spoken in a no-kidding-around tone of voice are far more effective than yelling, time-outs or threats. Loving parents invest enormous amount of energy trying to convince children to behave. However, less talk and more short-and-sweet comments are needed.
Dr. Cathryn Tobin is a pediatrician, trained midwife, mother of four and author of The Parent's Problem Solver (Three Rivers, 2002). She is currently working on her second book about her highly successful methods for preventing infant sleep problems. Go to www.askdrcathryn.com for more information.
