The argument for postmodern matchmaking
There are many different methods for making love connections and I offer no value judgments – except to say that being fixed up by someone you know is the best way to meet your mate. Having a comrade, coworker, or cousin you love set you up for free is the oldest, cheapest, fastest, safest and nicest route to landing a different kind of love. You get to bypass the usual complex weeding-out process and sidestep the awkward ways that singles usually intersect.
These are often so uncomfortable and agonizing that there's a cottage industry of magazine, books, sitcoms, movies and reality shows chronicling the annals of disastrous dates.
Secrets of a fix-up fanatic
By choosing and using a matchmaker you know, you can:
1. Avoid bars, concerts, clubs and other meat markets – the most obvious places to connect with drunks and creeps who could be trying to seduce, drug, manipulate, rob, molest, date-rape, or take advantage of you.
2. Never again have to approach a stranger of the opposite sex whom you've never met with a pickup line (like "Come here often?") or silly ploy (like "Can you tell me what time it is?"). Instead, the person you meet for coffee has already agreed in advance to give you a shot. Your date knows all about you; you know all about your date. You have an intrusive matchmaker in common to comfortably gossip about, which will break the ice.
3. Steer clear of the Internet, which can sometimes offer the quickest, most impatient path to unwittingly picking up pedophiles, ex-cons, losers and liars from different states and countries who post ten-year-old pictures of themselves with all kinds of other deceptive information.
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