How to tell the difference between Mr. Right and Mr. Right Now

Find out if your partner is someone you can be with forever. Relationships experts weigh in on the differences between Mr. Right and Mr. Right Now.

By Vanessa Burka

How to tell if he's Mr. Right or Mr. Right Now
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All women have a type of man they are typically attracted to. Whether he is tall, dark and handsome or athletic, strong and funny, you consider him your Mr. Right. But what if your Mr. Right is really your Mr. Right Now and not necessarily the man who will give you your happily ever after?

Knowing the category in which to place your partner is key. Below are some guidelines to follow when determining into which group your guy falls.

Fatal attraction
Your physical connection with someone should not be the first item on your Mr. Right checklist. According to Kimberly Moffit, a Toronto-based psychotherapist and counsellor, women will often notice that with a Mr. Right Now the physical attraction outweighs the long-term emotional bond.

"When you get together, one of the primary activities you engage in is physical. If this is the case, you may not be connecting on a deeper level," says Moffit.

If your partner learned the thread count of your sheets before your middle name, you might want to reconsider his chance of becoming long-term relationship material.

Cat got his tongue
As women, it is in our DNA to consider and question the next steps in a relationship. While Mr. Right will happily discuss the future, Mr. Right Now dodges the topic at all costs.

"There is usually no talk of future plans," says Moffit. "He usually puts the emphasis back on the now."

If phrases such as "I am really enjoying spending time with you right now" or "Let’s just enjoy what we have," are used by your significant other, it may be time to consider whether he visualizes you in his future.

"If he avoids a verbal commitment, he is not worth pursuing," explains Moffit.

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