Divorce is an experience that affects nearly every aspect of your life. Even if you know your divorce is for the best, there are still losses you need to come to terms with so you don't get stuck in a rut. Here are the top six:
1. Loss of the future you thought you'd have.
Most people have high hopes when they marry and this probably isn't how you thought your life would go. But don't let yourself get lost in what could have been. Focus on the here and now and see if you can begin to glimpse a new vision for your future.
2. Loss of mutual friends and in-laws.
You will either need to say goodbye to your in-laws or dramatically restructure your relationship with them. Don't fight to try to keep the same relationship with them -- things need to change, so let them.
Your mutual friends will likely gravitate towards one or the other of you. Don't take it personally. Instead, focus on the good friends who are there to support you now.
3. Loss of money and possessions.
You may need to move to a smaller house or apartment, part with favourite furniture, or adapt to a lower income. Focus on getting yourself set up as best you can with what you have. Aim at getting a decent income and create the most nourishing, comfortable home that you can for yourself.
Most importantly, get help. Find a good lawyer, real estate agent, or accountant. Ask trusted friends for a helping hand.
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