6. Take it outside!
Leave your worries and your critical spirit on the doorstep -- focus more on being present and real and open and listen more than you talk. Show your partner what you'd like rather than shriveling them with a harsh critique for a less than peak performance.
7. Do your homework
What feels good and what doesn't -- if I don't know my own body how can I possibly ask you for what I want? Experiment on your own time -- and together!
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8. Friction
Too much is painful and sex shouldn't be. Invest in a good quality lubricant, then relax and enjoy the sensations.
9. Feelings are a good thing
Let your partner in. Talk about those things that have hurt, scared, confused or delighted you regarding sex in the past. Be candid and respectful.
10. Seek freedom
Intimacy happens when both people are free to bring their most playful self into their sexual relationship. Discuss and respect individual preferences, taboos and lack of information.
You are the most amazing person, worthy of love and open to all the good parts of being created as a sexual being. Your partner is a precious gift to you. Choose them wisely and spend the years ahead learning how to open yourself up to good intimacy with them. Studies indicate that couples in their 40s and 50s who are in long-term, committed relationships are enjoying the best sex lives of all!
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Dr. Marion Goertz is a registered marriage and family therapist. Check out her website atwww.mariongoertz.com.
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