Getting rid of the player
Your sanity, self esteem and ultimate ability to be in a loving, caring relationship depend on you knowing who you are, what you want and how to get that for yourself.
What would you tell a good friend if she described this situation to you? I hope it might be something like, "Run!"
Unfortunately, the wisdom of our mind doesn't always agree with the longing in our heart. How bad does it have to get before you seek the good for yourself? This is an abusive and parasitic relationship and the longer you stay the more you may feel invisible and doubt your own perceptions. It is a defeating, depressive cycle and likely not one that you can break out of on your own.
Talk with someone you can trust -- and that is surely not him. We're all cheering for you!
--Marion
Wondering if you're in an abusive relationship? Check out Dragonslippers by Rosalind B. Penfold (Penguin, 2005).
Dr. Marion Goertz is a registered marriage and family therapist and a clinical member of the American and Ontario Associations for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT/OAMFT). Marion maintains a private marriage and family therapy practice in Toronto.
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