If Mom ain't happy, ain't nobody happy Part 1: Mommy martyrs

So what can you do to prevent yourself from switching into mommy martyr mode?

Make yourself a priority this holiday season, says Lisa Martin, a Vancouver life-balance coach, author, and mother of one.

"The best gift you can give your family and yourself this holiday season is a healthy, happy you. The secret to making this happen is to give yourself permission to put the quality of your own life at the top of your holiday wish list."

And when you're setting priorities for items that should stay on your agenda and items that should get back-burnered, delegated, or just plain scratched off, make sure to make time for the things that will keep you healthy.

According to Tracy Lyn Moland, a Calgary-based mother of two and the author of Mom Management (Gift of Time), that means fitness, fun, sleep and at least "a few healthy meals" to help balance out the seasonal treats.

And don't forget your girlfriend fix, coffee breaks and alone time when you're deciding which commitments should stay and which should go: "Take 15 minutes for a coffee break when you are out shopping. Have lunch with a friend. Go for a walk when you are most stressed out." It's those holiday pauses that truly refresh, after all.

Finally, encourage other mothers you know to hang up their mommy martyr suits for good -- or, better yet, to donate them to a museum. They'll look adorable alongside the cashmere sweater sets, vintage party dresses and clip-on earrings.