Online friendships -- perfect for moms

The alternate world of the Internet

I used to always wonder how in the world people could meet a spouse on the Internet as it seemed so impersonal. Well, I have made some incredible business acquaintances and more importantly some wonderful friends online so while I may not be in the market I can see how one could meet a mate. There is an entire world that exists in cyber space. Christine and I met through an online writers group and at times we swear we are twins -- one in Canada and one in Germany. We have written similar books -- both believing in the incredible importance of Moms learning to take care of themselves so that they are better Mothers. We both do similar book promotions. We both work as speakers and marketing consultants. We have two children. We like to bike. We have similar goals for the future!

As a Mom it can be very hard to keep up friendships like we used to before children. Time rarely allows for us to leave the house and do things on our own. The Internet has opened a brand new world for Moms who might otherwise feel isolated without friends or neighbors nearby. As Christine and I have proven, online friendships can be made and are a wonderful way for Moms to take care of themselves.

Tips for creating and maintaining online friendships:

• Find an online community that you feel comfortable with. Take some time and get to know it. Read the articles, read the message boards, or try some of the recipes.
  
• Become an active member. In life we generally get out of something what we put into it. Once you have found a community you feel good about, become a member and participate. Get to know other people in message boards and chat rooms. Share a bit of information about yourself and family. Ask questions.
  
• Often, as with Christine and me, you realize very quickly that you and someone are very compatible. Take the relationship a step further. Start to email each other. Get to know more about each other. Join one of the many messenger programs where you can chat directly. Some even allow for voice and web cam conversations.
  
• Once you feel you have a strong friendship, talk to each other off-line. While we haven't been able to meet yet, we do talk on the phone every so often. This personal contact is always a nice treat. Also consider mailing letters, cards or gifts.
  
• Meet each other in person. Swap family photos and remember each other's birthdays. Send an eCard. Whoever said you need to live in a city to meet people? Whether in Montreal or Munich, Moms can unite and support each other with the click of the keyboard.