Quiz: Is your marriage heading for a breakup?

Conflict
Ginger and Wil have been married for just over a year -- a particularly stressful year. Besides getting used to living together, they have had to make some major career decisions. They've had their share of arguments, which in turn have led to periods of stress. "I like to talk until we come to some sort of resolution," says Ginger. "If Wil doesn't like what he's hearing, he gives me the silent treatment, which can last for days. It drives me batty."

If there's one thing you can count on in any relationship, it's that you will argue. That said, handled the right way, a good argument can actually help a relationship. Most people think conflict is a bad thing and are quick to point fingers, while others will go out of their way to avoid confrontation. So many couples feel their differences don't get resolved. And that's when problems start.

The reality is, we tend to get the most angry at the ones we are closest to. The thing to keep in mind is, when you know you're about to blow a gasket, give yourself a time-out. Wait until you've calmed down -- then talk about it.

And do talk about it. Don't just walk away hoping the problem will disappear. It won't. Better to lay all your cards out on the table and deal.

Sparring partners
Response choices:
1=Strongly disagree
2=Disagree
3=Undecided
4=Agree
5=Strongly agree

1. We are able to compromise when necessary.
2. We tend to ignore issues that may cause conflict.
3. We often allow minor issues to become major problems.
4. We have different ways of dealing with issues.
5. As a couple, we are generally able to work through issues and problems and resolve them.

Interpreting your score:
Score the quiz as follows for each of you.
A. Total your points for items 1 and 5.
B. Add 18 to total of A.
C. Total points for items 2, 3 and 4.
D. Subtract C from B.

Partner 1:
Partner 2:

21-25 = Your conflict-resolution skills are very good.
15-20 = Your conflict-resolution skills are generally good, but there are ways they could be improved.
11-14 = Your conflict-resolution skills are good in some ways, but they also need some improvement.
5-10 = Your conflict-resolution skills definitely need improvement.