Secrets of happily married men

Accept the position:
Treating marriage like a job is one of Haltzman's tips for making the union work. He says communication skills, salesmanship and diplomacy are just a few of the job skills that are transferable to relationships.

"Thinking of marriage as a job is hugely appealing to men, he says. To men, having a job is part of being a man and they understand the concept.

It's "OK tell me what my job is, I'll do it." The payoff -- because with work come rewards -- is a meaningful connection in life, "far beyond anything you could get from a road trip to a basketball game," he says.

"It's a myth that love is enough," Haltzman says. "It's a great starting point but you have to work at marriage."

If men are workers by nature and their marriage is in trouble, it becomes their job to fix it. Men respond well to an opportunity to get a job done, Haltzman says.

Shout it from the rooftops:
Men and women speak different "languages of love," according to Haltzman. Men are more action-oriented and physical when it comes to expressing themselves, while women are more verbal, he says.

That's why, when you "look up at him with those big doe eyes and ask 'What are you thinking?' you don't get the response you'd like," explains Haltzman.

So what's the answer? Take a page out of each other's books. He might not like to talk about his feelings -- well tough, Haltzman says. "Even though it's not their language, they need to use it. A guy needs to tell his woman that he loves her and that she's special and they need to do it often. It's how women understand love, so guys jut have to learn to say it," he says, adding, "Women should expect verbal expressions of love from their husbands, they just shouldn't expect it to come naturally."

As for women? They need to recognize the language of men and engage in some physical acts of loving. Yes, we're talking about sex, but its more than that. "Men express love physically, through touching, through connecting. Its an equally important language."

Not to mention, it's his way of feeling connected to you. Find an equal mix of words and action to keep both spouses happy.

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