"What I miss most about being single is eating Corn Pops for dinner in front of the television in my pajamas. I miss hanging out with my girlfriends all night, crashing on a couch and sleeping off a hangover in the morning. I miss Sunday brunch while reading the paper. Now that I'm married and have kids, I'm always rushing from one thing to the next -- chasing time. I love my family and wouldn't change it for the world but it would be nice to walk through life instead of run. But maybe only for a week…then I'd probably get bored!"
-- Karen Hazan
"Luckily I'm married to a man that doesn't make me miss singledom very much. Socially, we continue to do most of the things we did as single people. Now, we just do a few of them together. But the one thing I do miss is making the seemingly insignificant decisions. For example, in the past, on a night I didn't feel like eating, much less cooking, I'd have a bowl of cereal for dinner. But cereal for two isn't such a big hit. And when I was single, it was easier to go on an impromptu shopping spree without feeling hampered by responsibility. Now I feel that pesky angel hovering over my shoulder whispering, 'do you really need that? There's a furnace to pay for.' For the record, my husband doesn't begrudge me anything. But being married is a little like being Catholic -- sometimes you just feel a little guilty."
-- Liz Walsh
"I don't really miss anything about being single, although I miss a lot of things about being pre-child, like time for me, time to read, time to sleep in, eating whatever I want when I want, etc. I suppose, if pressed, one thing I sort of miss about singlehood is just having one opinion (mine!) to consider when decorating my home. My partner is very opinionated about design and decor, so every decision turns into a huge discussion. On the plus side, he's willing to do the actual painting and yard work, so I can't really complain."
-- Yuki Hayashi
"What I miss sometimes is when single girlfriends go for brunch on a Saturday morning or make spontaneous plans to do things, like go shopping. It's not that I can't do those things anymore; I just have to balance time with my girlfriends and time with my boyfriend. And sometimes because I have a boyfriend, single girlfriends don't always think to include me because it's assumed I'll be spending time with my boyfriend. I also think all women would agree that they miss that first thrill of a new relationship -- those exciting days/weeks where you are getting to know a new person -- wondering if they'll call, what they think of you."
-- Tara Nolan
"Although some may be reluctant to admit it, when you're in a long-term relationship you can easily run the risk of going from a whole person to a half of a whole. What I miss most about being single is my time being my own. Not 'me time.' (I hate that term. Moms who protest about not having me time need a healthy dose of reality.) What I mean is not always having to account for my time with anybody else but me, and not feeling guilty when I do. I definitely think excessive, unreasonable amounts of guilt are a phenomenon of 'halves.'"
-- Paula Aquilina-Shin
"What do I miss most about being single? I miss the freedom to spend my days doing frivolous things. Like booking a day at the spa with my girlfriends. Hanging out at a friend's house, eating ice cream, watching chick flicks and flipping through magazines. I miss days spent talking on the phone and painting my nails. Don't get me wrong; I wouldn't go back in time and change the life I currently have, or give up my husband and kids, but there are definitely times when I yearn for those days, which seem so much more carefree in retrospect."
-- Jane Strazzeri
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