My husband and I are going through a separation/divorce, but it seems neither of us really wants to terminate the marriage (15 years and 2 kids). He tells me he wants to be with me, but his family hates me and he listens to them...what shall I do?
Hello Hostile in-laws!
It sounds like you are in a very lonely place with the odds and the in-laws stacked up against you. That can be so very difficult. This really is between you and your husband, with your mutual, first priority needing to be about the well-being of your kids. Family members, while sometimes well-meaning, can influence decisions, which rightly belong in the hands of the prime players -- you and your husband.
Consult with a counsellor or clergy person in your area to determine what are the best, most mature decisions for you and your husband to make. In this situation you have an opportunity to model something really important to your kids about working together to resolve major marital challenges. At some point an experienced family counsellor may wish to invite the extended family members in to a session with you in order to identify boundaries that you and your husband might have trouble setting on your own. Don’t try to handle this alone, identify friends and family who will remind you regularly who you are and what your worth is. You may wish to consider legal counsel at some point to ensure that you and the children are taken care of financially in the event the marriage does not survive. Marion
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