My husband has a cache of porn videos and photos of old girlfriends and watches certain ones regularly. He still goes and stays with one of the women, a friend he says, when he is in the U.S. I recently found videos and photos of them sleeping together. I have asked both of them many times if they had something going on and they say no. He also has a history of being with two women at once and asks me to do so with this woman, or tell him fantasy stories about the three of us when we are in bed. I have told him it turns me off but my feelings don't seem to make any difference to him.
This really is bad, isn't it? How much worse does it have to get before you get yourself free from this tangled web of selfishness, lies and deception?
Workable marriages are about love, honour and respect. I don't hear any of that happening now, or any time soon, in this household. I would encourage you to invite your husband to join you in a conversation with a therapist or a leader of your religious group in order to see if there is anything remotely salvageable in the relationship.
At the very least your self-respect is worth rescuing. If he refuses, I would suggest that you take immediate steps toward safety. This relationship is toxic and you are playing a very dangerous game if you are sexually active with a promiscuous husband who may be infected with something you would just as soon not contract.
Take good care of yourself and listen to both your head and your heart as you make wise decisions for you and your future.
Marion
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