I don't know how to deal with or help my fiancé with his internet porn addiction. It has become a hurtful problem in our relationship, though he says he wants to get help. I am scared that if he isn't able to help himself, I won't want to marry him. I am willing to give him as much support as I can but where do we get the help?
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While you can support your fiancé in his desire to make changes in his life, the work is ultimately his to do.
Ideally he would be talking regularly with someone other than you about what drives this hunger of his and get help to make healthier choices for himself and your future. Depending on where you live, and if he is serious about making a change, he could check with a local medical centre, your family doctor, or an addiction unit of your local government health agency for counselling services or support groups.
An alternative may be a residential treatment centre which would involve having him check in for an intensive treatment, with opportunities for you to be involved as well.
This issue will not go away and is serious. Addictions are a one-way street to diminished capacity and eroded physical, emotional and relational health. Remember, you did not cause this and you do not have to fix it. Keep yourself healthy and centered and make good choices for you!
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