I've been dating a wonderful, caring guy for 10 months now, and I know he is very much in love with me. But I don't share the same passion -- I'm not in love with him. Is it wrong to stay with him? He is perfect in every way except that I don't have that desire for him. I feel so unhappy with myself -- I wish I had the butterflies in my stomach and the excitment of being with him.
I'm wondering if you just don't feel attracted to this person or if there is something more here about not feeling really good about yourself?
Before you leave the relationship you might want to have a conversation with someone who knows you well. Discuss what might be keeping you from wanting to make a commitment to this man or anyone else, period. If this is actually about not feeling this man is someone really of interest to you, then by all means say so. That will free you both up to move forward and into relationships that fulfill each of you -- realtionships with people that both stimulate and appreciate you.
Marion
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