My husband and I have recently been arguing about the amount of sex we have and I’m feeling really unimpressed with his attitude. We have small children and try to go on a weekly date where I get to feel sexy and playful and not have to cut someone else’s meat! We dress up, go to a nice restaurant, polish off a couple of bottles of nice wine and then return home where I want to finish off the evening with some fabulous lovemaking. Well, by the time I’ve debriefed the babysitter and sent her home my husband is snoring and the evening is shot. Is this what I can look forward to for the next 50 years?
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You wouldn't play a good game of tennis after a heavy meal and several bottles of wine, so don't expect to score in the bedroom in an altered condition!
A little alcohol can enhance sexual arousal, while a lot can really dampen your ardour. Try eating and drinking less, include something of a more physical nature in your evening's entertainment and go home earlier on those nights you want to be intimate.
Don't make sex an expected outcome of each date as the pressure to perform can be a turnoff, and be open to what arises. Schedule private times for just the two of you. Enjoy touching, talking and trying some new, mutually agreeable ways of pleasuring each other. Your mind and body will be more alert, focused and up for some of that fabulous loving that you will both want to enjoy for at least the next 50 years.
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