10 ways to fire up your sex life

Tips for turning up the heat in the bedroom and reigniting the spark in your relationship.

By Karyn J. Wilson

How to get a hotter sex life: Tips 6-10

6. Be creative
You don't have to ditch the school bake sale for tantric sex classes, but remember that there are a variety of sex positions to enjoy. Expand your knowledge by visiting a store or website that specializes in products to enhance sexuality. Good For Her, a company that specializes in making uneasy customers feel comfortable about buying a range of sex toys, books, videos is a great choice and, best of all, you can shop online at goodforher.com.

According to Chanelle Gallant, manager of the Toronto location, vibrators and massage oils are good tools to "help couples reconnect." For those who are apprehensive about sexual hardware, check out the numerous book titles at your local book store that may cater to your specific interests. Here are Gallant's recommendations: Life's Too Short for Tantric Sex: 50 Shortcuts to Sexual Ectasy by Kate Taylor and Secrets of the Sexually Satisfied Woman: Ten Keys to Unlocking Ultimate Pleasure by Laura Berman and Jennifer Berman.

While creativity in the bedroom can be a sure way to heat up your bedroom, Remember the first point mentioned: Communicate. It may not be a good idea to surprise your partner with a naughty video if such a gesture can be overwhelming. It's a good idea to discuss what you would like to try before leaping into the bedroom in studded leather.

7. Wanting to be wanted
Let your partner know you desire him or her. "By stimulating your sex life, you show you desire [your partner]," Gibson says. "Women and men must be desired." Remember how it felt when you first met your partner? Rekindle those feelings and flirt a little.

8. Seek support
Nothing kills the mood more than feeling unappreciated. If you're busy with household chores, encourage your partner to help around the house so you can free up time that you can then spend together.

9. Seek medical advice
Women who are approaching menopause often notice their libido plummets. Sex becomes boring and that, says Gibson, is something women don't have to suffer through. She recommends seeking out treatments (like hormone replacement therapy or herbal remedies) that will recharge sexual feelings.

10. Exercise
No matter what your shape, feeling comfortable in your own skin is a definite turn on. However, regular exercise will increase those love-happy endorphins that will put you in the mood for some lovin'. If a date at the gym is not your idea of a good time, a stroll around the block holding your partner's hand, says Gibson, is "time well spent."


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