Dating online and wondering how to go from screen to IRL? Try these tips.
When in the thick of the dating world, it's easy to download a free dating app and connect with others, since it keeps you at a distance. But if you actually want to move forward and meet a potential match, you need to turn the connection into a real relationship. Here are four ways to make it happen.
1. Send a message when you match. Get rid of the notion that the man should be the one to message you first. If you matched with each other, there's already some kind of mutual attraction, so take it upon yourself to send a quick note. Something as simple as, "Hey, how's your day going," or just, "Hi ☺" will open the doors to communication, and will let him to take the conversation in the direction he chooses. The sooner the message is sent, the sooner you can see if the banter feels natural.
2. Make a date. Once the conversation has been flowing with ease, ask what he or she is up to that evening. Men are often impressed and intrigued by someone who's straight up and gets to the point. Taking the lead exudes confidence and shows that you put yourself online to make a real connection.
3. Create urgency. After you ask if he or she is free to meet up, mention that you're available only that evening. When someone is interested in you and knows that your time is limited, he or she is more likely to work around your schedule. Sure, it puts some pressure on the person you're chatting with to get out and meet you, but you're doing the hard part by making the first move.
4. Use the "See you there" feature. If you're on Happn, (the only geo-location-based app on the market) you'll connect with people who you probably cross paths with daily, since your matches will be within a 250-metre range. The whole premise of this app is to encourage face-to-face interactions, so you don't need to be fearful of coming on too strong by asking to meet up right away. An easy-to-use icon called "See you there" creates a list of what you're free to do (such as get a drink, go for a walk, grab a bite to eat, etc.) in the moment. When another user sees you're "available," he or she can instantly connect with you and you can arrange to get together in the area.