Sexual desire is unique to each individual person and it is important to mention that there is no "normal" constant level of libido. In fact, libido varies and can be affected by different factors such as stress, a medical condition, menopause in women, taking medication, and more. It's possible and normal to experience drops in libido and for sex to be a little less frequent during certain times in your life. However, if this is something that you want to "work on", here are tips that might help you regain your sexual desire.
Here are 5 ways to rekindle the romance in your relationship:
1. SET UP A SCHEDULE
It may sound really boring and strange, but setting up sex days with your partner in advance can go a long way in getting your sex drive back. One of the possible causes for a person's low libido is lack of regularity. This tip will be especially useful for those who have put their sex life on hold for a while.
Basically, if you haven't had sex in a while, you may have gotten out of the habit, and lost your sexual appetite in the process. Setting a schedule can help you get back into the habit and wake up your sexual organs. Of course, this "schedule" can be adjusted according to your desires. The goal is not to force yourself to have sex just because there is an "X" on the calendar, but rather to help yourself regain your sexual appetite. And become something to look forward to.
2. FIND YOURSELF FIRST
A low libido can sometimes be caused by a lack of self-confidence, and this phenomenon is often observed in women. If this is the case, it is very important to take the time to "find yourself" before anything else. Give yourself small intimate sessions with the aim of awakening your body and rediscovering it. There is nothing shameful or embarrassing about masturbating. This is how you'll know what you like and don't like, and it's a good bet you'll feel beautiful and sexy during and even after!
To regain some sexual desire, you need to reactivate the urge, and it can be done through your mind and fantasies. Whether it's reading erotic stories, watching erotic movies, or simply using your own creative imagination, fantasizing can trigger your sexual desire. Again, having fantasies is completely normal for a man or a woman, and there is no shame in it. Dream on.
4. SURPRISE YOURSELF
The key to maintaining sexual desire within a couple is to surprise each other from time to time, to get out of the day-to-day routine. This is much easier said than done, especially when there are children involved, but it is possible and important for your life as a couple!
You could, for example, have sex in the morning instead of at night before going to bed, masturbate in front of each other, have sex in a room of the house that is not your bedroom, try out sex toys that you are comfortable with, send naughty pictures during the day, or treat yourself to a weekend away at a hotel when you feel the need to get together.
Be creative, but most importantly, talk it over with your partner first to make sure you're both comfortable with what you want to try.
5. PERINEAL GYMNASTICS FOR WOMEN
It's logical, the less pleasure you get from sex, the less you want to do it, and the desire can slowly fade away. Training your perineal muscles can therefore be very beneficial for women to help them regain the pleasurable sensations that stimulate desire and allow them to have a more satisfying sexuality.