This week, my sister-in-law (sometimes I call her my sister-in-love) :) sent me an email that read, Hey, hope your day is off to a better start than mine! With this attached photo.[caption id="attachment_11064" align="aligncenter" width="360" caption="It's no use crying. Milk that has been spilled can never be unspilled. It cannot jump back into the bowl. (photo, Tanya Paris)"] [/caption]
I had to laugh. And yet, I thought, good for her. Instead of freeking out, she grabbed a camera. In an instant, she rewrote the story, laughed and moved on.
When I think of the times in my life that I cried over things that happened and wasn’t able to move on, it makes me a little bit sad. When I was divorced, I was stuck for years, going over and over my married life and how it could have been different in a loop in my head, sometimes all night, and some days, the morning light was the only thing that could make it stop.
I wish I was more like my little baby nephew, who check it out – registers surprise originally, then moves on to eating the cereal right off the floor.[caption id="attachment_11069" align="aligncenter" width="300" caption="What’s done cannot be undone. And so, we should all move on, even if it means eating cereal off the floor."] [/caption] This is a good life lesson that the little boy taught me. Who knew I'd be enrolled in a life class with a one-year-old? But learning can be found in the most unlikeliest of place, and so, in an effort to help others, I'm sharing this gem. What's done cannot always be undone. You have to deal with it. How? Like this. Kk, I did not make it up and AA uses it at their meetings, but you don't have to even have an addiction to use it. The Serenity Prayer: God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference. If someone stops loving you, you can’t change that. If someone you love dies, you can’t change that. If you lose your job, if a natural disaster occurs and you lose everything you ever worked for including your home, if your car dies, if innocent people are harmed through no fault of their own, if injustices are carried out that you had nothing to do with, you can’t change that. But you can change some things. If you work in a toxic environment, you can start looking for another job. If you have relationships that can be mended, then you can do that. If you want to lead a more honest life, you can do that. All it takes is courage. It's already inside you. It may not be easy, but doing the right thing isn't always the easy thing. Let your braveness come. And the wisdom to know the difference. There's the rub. When we try to change the past or really any event that we wish had been different in our lives, no matter how hard we try, we fail. It‘s no use wallowing in it, getting angry over it, drinking yourself into a bottle over it, and never being able to forgive others for what they have done to you. Let it go. Forgiveness is the best gift you can give yourself. And move on. With every breath, you can move toward a calmer, more peaceful life, but it starts with forgiveness. Yourself, then others. What about you? Is there anyone in your life you can forgive right now?