Getting to know a parent's new partner

These days it's not unusual for parents to be re-entering the dating scene just as their adult children are settling into committed relationships and starting families of their own. If one of your parents decides to start dating again, being encouraging is a great way to show support -- and can even bring you closer together. Meeting your parent's new partner for the first time might not be easy, but there are ways to move past any potential discomfort.

We spoke with Timothy Gauthier, a certified life coach and the founder of SMARTLife Wellness Co. in Ottawa, about finding our footing when a parent starts dating again. "Open communication between the parent and the adult children is the only sure way to know how to approach the situation for those involved," he says.

He shares five strategies to help start you off on the right foot with the new lead in your parent's romantic life.

1. Be honest
There's no harm in admitting that you aren't used to these types of scenarios, or to make a joke to lighten the mood. "It is very normal for adult children to be reluctant to meet their parent's new partner," says Gauthier.

"As always, communication is key. Although there may be some tension, as long as each person chooses to communicate respectfully, talking about the situation can provide an opportunity for a deeper connection," he explains.

Remember that you are likely to see this person more than once, so have faith that it will get easier. "As you get to know you parent's partner, he or she will become more comfortable with you -- but honesty is crucial throughout this entire process," says Gauthier.

2. Be mindful of first impressions
Making a good first impression is important, which means you should be aware of your body language and manner of speech when you do meet your parent's new partner. You might be nervous or uncomfortable, but try not to show it.

Avoid crossing your arms in front of your body, which can be perceived as hostile, and avoid interrupting or cutting off the other person when they are speaking, which can be seen as disregard for what they are saying, Gauthier advises. Look to your parent to help ease any tension and to make the meeting more comfortable.

"The parent really is the bridge here. They have an intimate relationship with both parties," he says. "This equalizes the environment and allows others to be courageous with their own feelings and discomforts. Everyone is doing the best they can, and it's not easy for anyone involved in these situations."

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